Now that more time has passed, I’ve been feeling better. Emotionally, what I feel now is disappointment in having this setback, and having to go through everything again. I feel bad that some women have such a difficult time emotionally. The author of the Lenny essay that I previously referenced said it best, but essentially she was aware that logically, she shouldn’t feel so deeply affected by her loss, and yet grief is incomparable. As a doctor and now as a woman who’s been through it, I just feel bad that anyone feels that kind of hurt, and wish they didn’t.
I think it helps that celebrities are being more open and talking about their miscarriages. And on social media, many regular women are also able to open up about their experiences, which hopefully makes it easier for those going through it to know that they are far from alone.
About two weeks after the miscarriage, my home pregnancy test had become negative, and then not too long after, I got the LH surge on my ovulation kit. My bleeding got lighter and lighter but never fully stopped, and then about a month after the miscarriage is when I had my first period. With that cycle, I resumed my appointments at the fertility office and started back on Clomid. So we’ll see how that goes. Everything feels like eternity: waiting a couple of weeks from ovulation to see if the pregnancy test is positive. Knowing that I got pregnant in January, and now the earliest I’d conceive again is April. I know that in the scheme of things, 3 months+ is not that big of a deal, but it feels like forever when you’re already feeling impatient.
On a lighter note, I decided to write about shoes. They’re not Paleo and not OB-related, but they’ve been on my mind as I’ve been in the market to buy shoes for WZW as well as myself. It’s mind-boggling that shoes for toddlers can cost $50 at retail price. We first received Stride Rite shoes as a gift for WZW and have found them to be of good quality. We found that out when we bought a cheaper brand, and the tread was shallow to begin with. In a short time, WZW wore out the soles and we had to get a new pair.
For an active and growing little guy, we want good shoes, but knowing how quickly he goes through them, I can’t bring myself to buy $50 shoes. He got his current pair at Christmas, a full size larger than he was measuring, and now he’s at that size. So that means he will need a new pair soon. I decided to look into other brands, and have heard about Pediped, but those are expensive as well. I was talking to some moms recently about shoes, and one said that her 5 yo daughter will only wear See Kai Run. And another brand that came up was Momo Baby.
I decided to Google “best toddler shoes” and found this list:
She mentioned another brand called Tsukihoshi that I’d never heard of before. I would have liked to try Pediped or See Kai Run, but couldn’t find an affordable pair in my son’s size, so I just ordered a Tsukihoshi pair. Any other brands I should consider?
As for me, I decided I need some slippers to wear around our house since we have hardwood floors, and I need more support. Plus despite removing our shoes at the door, my socks inevitably end up dirty. I’d previously found a pair of comfortable flip flops from Vionic, which are supposed to provide good arch support. It just dawned on me to check, and they make slippers as well. Score! And then of course as I’m looking through their site, I want everything else they carry. I can only vouch for the style I own, the Tide II Toe Post Sandal.
It has great ratings and I once met a woman who had the same color and style, and she told me it was her second pair. Now I’m planning on trying other types of shoes that they make.
I’ve worn my Cole Haan Air Tali wedge shoes with a low heel a ton, and had a similar pair previously. Unfortunately, I bought another pair that had the same low heel height but not the wedge and it wasn’t as comfortable, and I didn’t end up wearing them all that much. With Cole Haan, definitely wait for sales as they seem to have them frequently.
I’ve also gotten TOMS wedges with a significant heel height that were surprisingly comfortable. I got a second pair of the same shoes in a different color, but the fabric used was more stiff, and dug into my skin a little. These days, I have no interest in wearing heels since I have to worry about chasing after a toddler. Or in some cases, carrying a screaming, kicking one.
One woman said she likes to splurge on Rothy shoes because they’re cute and comfy. I looked at their site, but none of the shoes have any heel. For me, since I’m short, I prefer to have a low heel, so I think the Vionic brand might have some better options for me.
These are brands I’ve come across or had personal experience with (no paid advertisements here). It’s always so satisfying to be able to find a really cute, comfortable pair of shoes that I can wear all the time. Any other brands/styles you swear by?